Do you have a nightmare boss?

Do you have a boss that is is a complete nightmare? If so how do you cope with it? I myself have had a horrible boss and a few senior managers who didn't always play fair game. The worst was when one of my bosses took me aside and shouted at me for doing things she never actually explained in the first place. My first reaction was shock that it even happened. My second reaction was having to go and have a good old cry in the toilets because I was so upset. Apparently the number one reason people hate their job is a horrible boss. This may not surprise you but 53% - said they would be too scared to raise concerns over bullying compared with just 25% two years ago."(ACAS). This is concerning statistic because how many of you are harnessed by or boss and seniors and never report it. I know people and have had clients, who come to me saying their boss is making their life hell and they don't know what to about it. I managed to deal with it in my own way but the best way to deal with a bully is to not let them get to. 

Some if the things I did to prevent further outbursts from them were:

1. Stay on top of my work - I always made sure I was two steps ahead as they would check via phone and email.

2. I didn't let their insecurities get to me - The manager I worked with didn't actually seem to like their job and it felt like they put this out on me.

3. Keeping my head down - I never told anyone how I felt about my boss. They got my colleagues to spy on me to make sure I was working this stopped happening after a while but I never told anyone how unhappy I was in the office.

4. I kept at it - This was a temporary role for me so I carried on working there. If it had been a permanent role I would have probably left.

No boss or work place bully is worth the hassle or the time of getting too upset over. A lot of the time the bosses that may be horrible to you may have a horrible boss themselves. Remember behaviour is like a mirror and this sometimes reflects to other people. Most of the horrible boss stories I have heard, have been more to do with the bully then the victim. It may feel like a personal attack on you but Its mainly because the other person has their own insecurities and likes to take it out on other people. Also power can be an ugly creature, sometimes too much power given to the wrong people can make them abuse their power of position and do pretty much what they want.

To anyone reading this right now who may be facing a similar situation, don't let your nightmare boss be the cause of you leaving your job. If you can't take it anymore then fine leave but no one has a right to be treated badly by a senior. If you want to show them up then work hard and earn the rewards you deserve don't let them win.

When I look bad on my horrible boss incident I feel I have become a stronger person as a result of it. I never confronted them but I didn't want to play tit for tat. To be honest what would it have achieved? I felt in my heart just because they are nasty doesn't mean I want to be. Also I really believed if I behaved badly towards them this would be make me just as bad as them and I am not like them at all.

So if you are feel like your boss is like a Evil Queen or King don't rise it. You are better then that.

You can also see a follow up post to this post on Thrive Global here where this post as been republished.

Also if you want to discuss getting support from me after facing bullying at work why not consider booking a Career Power Hour

All the best 

Soma x